The concept of self-care is a core value for Living In Fulfilled Enlightenment! We're excited to explore the idea of sex as part of self-care.
What Is Self Care?
Self-care is the practice of taking time to access how we feel, both mentally and physically, and then taking steps to take care of both of those areas. Self-care includes physical aspects such as eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, meditating, decluttering your home, engaging in hobbies, etc. There is also emotional self-care such as setting emotional and energy boundaries, prioritizing your time, and also seeking therapy.
How Does Sex Fit In and Why is it Important?
When we talk about sex, we're referring to both a sexual act with another person as well as masturbation. Both forms are beneficial in several ways:
lowers blood pressure
releases the beneficial hormone oxytocin
foster a strong bond with your partner
strengthen muscles and burns calories
How To Get Started
While it may seem counterintuitive, often scheduling time for sex is best rather than leaving the act to chance. Aim for a time when you can give your undivided attention and also enough time to relax. Gather tools such as lubricant, toys, and or clothing items that make you feel good. These are individual preferences - buying up the Victoria's Secret catalog isn't necessary. Same goes for the tools - trying to use something that makes you uncomfortable isn't helpful. Instead, ease in and go with what you know.
Communication is Key
Whether you are enjoying sex as self-care with a partner or alone, communicating is key. That communication could be that you need some alone time, that you want your partner to be included, or that you want to try something new. Being open and honest with your partner about your needs and wants can make the process of fulfilling them easier.
Talk to a Specialist
As we age, hormone levels can change making it feel like our bodies are working against us! But there is hope - often hormone replacement therapy is an option to help us feel better, both men and women. This safe and effective treatment can make a world of difference for many people.
It's Not Always Physical
Sex as self-care doesn't have to be a physical act. Journaling about a sexual fantasy, seeking therapy about sex-related issues, or reading erotica are all forms of sexual self-care. In addition, a low libido or aversion to sex may be a response to our mind-body connection.